Secrets of Successful Behaviour Change

If you recall, I didn't post anything on our Blog about New Year's Resolutions ...not even a mention.  That was a deliberate decision because I think we all do very well making resolutions ....and admit it, we all do it!  As the clock struck midnight on New Year's Eve and motivated by that New Year optimism, you probably raised a glass and vowed that this year, things will change.  The challenge is keeping them beyond the first month.  Resolutions often reflect a lifestyle change we want to change or improve upon and for the first while, it can be relatively easy ....but then February rolls around and that's often when we slide back into our old habits.

So how do you make change that lasts?  Here's some tips to raise your odds of success.  Whether it's exercising more, improving your diet or reducing alcohol, here's how to make that resolution stick:

• KEEP IT REAL.  Setting your goal too high is a sure way to fail.  If you're inactive now, suddenly committing to exercise six days a week will likely not work.  Better to err on the easy side; after all, success generates momentum.

• MAKE IT YOURS.  Pursue change that is meaningful to you.  If you're changing for someone else, it likely won't last.  Focus on a goal that will make you feel good.

• ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE.  Think about how this change will enhance your life - not just about the negative pattern you're trying to break.  In other words, focus on how good you'll look and feel when you reach a healthy weight - rather than dwelling on how much you hate those extra pounds you're carrying now.

• BE SPECIFIC.  Sure you want to eat better, but what does that look like?  Create a plan that spells it out.  You might try to eat salad for lunch twice a week, or reduce your alcohol intake to a glass of wine a week.  But...

• BE FLEXIBLE.  Make sure your plan leaves room for options.  Nothing in the fridge for a salad today?  Last night's leftover broccoli and rice sounds like a healthy lunch.  After all, there are many ways to eat better or get active.

• REWARD YOURSELF.  Changing habits isn't easy, so reward yourself when you make progress in the right direftion.  After a dozen visits to the gym, you might treat yourself to a new piece of workout gear.

• CONNECT WITH OTHERS.  Most pursuits are better with friends.  Connection and interaction are motivating, so if you want to exercise more, grab a buddy.  If you want to eat healthier, cook with family for added encouragement.

• EXPECT SLIPS.  To make a change that`s lasting, be patient and forgive yourself if you stumble - make that when you stumble.  The best way to undermine your progress is to berate yourself if something goes wrong.  The trick is not to get discouraged.  Acknowledge your mistakes with compassion and try again.